January 14, 2015

29 – The Quarter Life Crisis

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Once I started thinking about running away and giving myself time to re-evaluate, I started researching about others who felt like I did. Anyone who knows me, knows I can research and analysis the crap out of anything! This must be why I never actually get anything productive done and work 65 hours a week….

Well let me tell you, nothing gets you more pumped up to travel than reading one of those “Why you should quit your job and travel tomorrow” articles.

Seriously, I was hooked.

I then stumbled on an article about turning 30. Well, jackpot! This one was written for me.

It spoke about the Quarter-Life crisis. An apparently very real condition for 29 year olds involving a life audit for meaningfulness and life satisfaction. Supposedly, many major life changing decisions are made at age 29.

Well, perfect – I was right on track!

So looking back, here’s my deal:

I have had a pretty good go over the last 10 years. I worked hard (all 10 years in school), I partied hard (countless music festivals, vacations, concerts, river parties, beach parties, house parties, you name it), I had done a significant amount of travelling (Guatemala, Belize, Mexico, and all of Western Europe), I had lived in Calgary and moved to Kelowna. Hell, I even won the 50/50 at the Calgary Stampede for $15,000. Not to mention, graduated, started a career, and bought and renovated my first house.

Frankly, reading that makes me jealous of myself.

While I should be toasting myself with a glass of champagne at the thought of turning 30, I am panicking. Because here is the truth – I am not ready to just sit down and start real life. Mostly because I have no one to start a life with, and frankly, limited prospects. Single 30 year old women with no kids – we are literally a dyingΒ breed!

And while we may have embraced our circumstances, others start to panic that we may be the last one standing prior to extinction.

One day, I was at a baby shower and ran into the parent of someone I went to Elementary School with. We chatted for a bit and then finally she asked if I had any kids. No, I replied. Are you married? No, I replied. Then she shook her head sadly and said, “Well, you must be the last one”?

For the record, I am not the LAST one. There is Pam – technically, we are the last two.

Society is telling us to panic.

I have decided not to panic. I have decided to just get that much more awesome! Damn rights, I am going to leave my job and travel the world. Whose jealous of who, now?

And I would like to tell my future husband that he is welcome for giving him all of this extra time to himself.

I am a lot to handle – he should be appreciating the break.


16 thoughts on “29 – The Quarter Life Crisis

  1. I just dropped you off at airport & came to see if you added another post- yipee! have the best time & can’t wait for all of the lol’ing’ that your blog is going to create! love u ladies! xx

  2. I think it’s wonderful!! I loved reading your “wine not” blog as well, and it sounds like a lot of fun! Such an inspiration, I can’t wait to plan my next adventure!! πŸ™‚

  3. Ha ha you are DEFININITELY a lot to handle. And future husband will both rejoice that he was not around to experience Tori at 17-29 and also feel a bit Jealous of your adult single life, cause you rock -even if you are the whole package and then some πŸ™‚

  4. I’m excited for you and Pammycakes!! Stay safe and have fun. It’s a journey of a lifetime. I’m looking forward to reading all about it πŸ™‚

  5. totally loving the blog Tor!!! you are a natural writer, i’m hooked!! (well, obviously i’d be hooked regardless!!) can’t wait for the next blog entry!! love you both tons xoxoxo

  6. You could certainly see your enthusiasm within the work you write.
    The world hopes for more passionate writers such as you who are not afraid to mention how they believe.

    All the time follow your heart.

  7. Take it from a woman who is 29 also and just recently traded in a cushion corporate job to become a girl boss while traveling the world, I totally can relate to having all of your friends surrounding you popping babies! I often wonder if I’m doing the logical thing, but sometimes you gotta say screw logic and find adventure! πŸ™‚

    1. Good for you! Life is short and everyone needs to find their own path. It’s been two years since I left my job and I have zero regrets πŸ™‚ Good luck on your adventures!

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